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Sex addiction - Mentally castrated
Okay, so I never posted this as it was a personal thing but since I'm now single, fuck it.

I actually was ready to marry my ex-gf and after I cheated on her, I vowed to change my ways so I researched a sex addicts support group. It's a trip as there were a bunch of guys on there who had addiction to porn, a few guys similar to me who had addiction to meeting chicks and others who never opened up. Now on the surface, it sounds kinda stupid as who isn't addicted to sex. But at least for me, it wasn't so much the sex but the fact of what I was doing (actively hunting and trying to pick up chicks) was hurting someone I loved and actually wanted to commit to. Okay, I won't get all pussy doctor phil on you. All I can say is it worked and I did not hunt for maybe 6 weeks and add to that, we were long distance so yeah, porn became my best friend. Now, that we've broken up, I'm still not feeling like my usual self. I'm trying to find my hunger, my motivation, that drive to get me to hunt but I can't as my fucking standards are too damn particular. Unless I see toned legs, perky ass in a short mini skirt with heels, I can't be bothered and don't feel motivation. It's like I worked so hard to develop this drive and fearlessness that once I achieved it, I mentally chose to let it go for love and now that that is gone, I'm left with nothing so am searching for motivation. Pussy, money, drugs, music.. helping people sounds cool but damn..

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That does suck you lost your ltr. Why did she leave?

I hope time heals your wound as that is bad that you really cared for her and now that's gone. I'd say out of 20 girls I approach Only 2-3 of them are someone I could truly connect with as I like reasonably intelligent girls who are down to Earth and for Americans West coast girls who aren't total diva bitches are the best. I like a NorCal/PnW book and coffee type of girl more than a Burbank or Newport Beach Chanel wearing bitch. Even so, European women are in average better all around. The European guys don't know how good they've got it as I assure them they probably won't like the US East coast.
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(11-24-2014, 03:33 PM)fucksong Wrote: Okay, so I never posted this as it was a personal thing but since I'm now single, fuck it.

I actually was ready to marry my ex-gf and after I cheated on her, I vowed to change my ways so I researched a sex addicts support group. It's a trip as there were a bunch of guys on there who had addiction to porn, a few guys similar to me who had addiction to meeting chicks and others who never opened up. Now on the surface, it sounds kinda stupid as who isn't addicted to sex. But at least for me, it wasn't so much the sex but the fact of what I was doing (actively hunting and trying to pick up chicks) was hurting someone I loved and actually wanted to commit to. Okay, I won't get all pussy doctor phil on you. All I can say is it worked and I did not hunt for maybe 6 weeks and add to that, we were long distance so yeah, porn became my best friend. Now, that we've broken up, I'm still not feeling like my usual self. I'm trying to find my hunger, my motivation, that drive to get me to hunt but I can't as my fucking standards are too damn particular. Unless I see toned legs, perky ass in a short mini skirt with heels, I can't be bothered and don't feel motivation. It's like I worked so hard to develop this drive and fearlessness that once I achieved it, I mentally chose to let it go for love and now that that is gone, I'm left with nothing so am searching for motivation. Pussy, money, drugs, music.. helping people sounds cool but damn..

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Oh honey you sound too bad! Sad Sorry to hear that. But those motivations like pussy, drugs, it might just lead you to nowhere. That might sound great now but in the long run, you might not be happy with your choice. Relationships come and go but everything else must go on.

I'm not sure how guys cope up with break-ups. But for us girls, we normally make sure to improve ourselves so those guys who left us will regret it in the end. Don't make yourself look very bad. At least, try..

Well, you can still go on dating and sleeping with different woman. But I wouldn't agree about you taking drugs! Haha. That won't help I guess. And also, hopefully you learned to be faithful once the right girl come over. We usually do not tolerate cheating issues. Although girls have different tolerance level. But once we reached the peak of getting tired trying to understand you, then we will leave no matter how much we love you. That's I guess the point guys can't understand. Many of you are too comfortable thinking that your partners will forgive you anyway and will still be there for you..

Anyway, hope you get better soon!Shy
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avoid drugs, you can't be a sex addict, humans sole purpose, like all animals is procreation.
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(11-24-2014, 04:18 PM)TideRide Wrote: That does suck you lost your ltr. Why did she leave?

I hope time heals your wound as that is bad that you really cared for her and now that's gone. I'd say out of 20 girls I approach Only 2-3 of them are someone I could truly connect with as I like reasonably intelligent girls who are down to Earth and for Americans West coast girls who aren't total diva bitches are the best. I like a NorCal/PnW book and coffee type of girl more than a Burbank or Newport Beach Chanel wearing bitch. Even so, European women are in average better all around. The European guys don't know how good they've got it as I assure them they probably won't like the US East coast.

When we first met, I had a girlfriend. You can even see my fr on here, I think titled instafuck or k-girl opinions. Anyways, after two weeks of messing around, I realized I actually liked this girl for more than the sex so I confessed everything in how I had a girlfriend and would break up with her. Long story short, she says I laid the wrong foundation. It was fucked from the beginning and even though she loved me, she couldn't forget that. She also felt like a ho somewhat or rather a mistress and that wasn't fair to her since she didn't do anything wrong. She thought I was single when we first met (oh, I also lied about my age although that wasn't the big reason but it didn't help either)

So yeah, my opinion is there is nothing with wanting to sleep with as many girls as possible but try to be honest about everything upfront(or at least after you bang because you never know who you might end up being into to.

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(11-24-2014, 03:33 PM)fucksong Wrote: Okay, so I never posted this as it was a personal thing but since I'm now single, fuck it.

I actually was ready to marry my ex-gf and after I cheated on her, I vowed to change my ways so I researched a sex addicts support group. It's a trip as there were a bunch of guys on there who had addiction to porn, a few guys similar to me who had addiction to meeting chicks and others who never opened up. Now on the surface, it sounds kinda stupid as who isn't addicted to sex. But at least for me, it wasn't so much the sex but the fact of what I was doing (actively hunting and trying to pick up chicks) was hurting someone I loved and actually wanted to commit to. Okay, I won't get all pussy doctor phil on you. All I can say is it worked and I did not hunt for maybe 6 weeks and add to that, we were long distance so yeah, porn became my best friend. Now, that we've broken up, I'm still not feeling like my usual self. I'm trying to find my hunger, my motivation, that drive to get me to hunt but I can't as my fucking standards are too damn particular. Unless I see toned legs, perky ass in a short mini skirt with heels, I can't be bothered and don't feel motivation. It's like I worked so hard to develop this drive and fearlessness that once I achieved it, I mentally chose to let it go for love and now that that is gone, I'm left with nothing so am searching for motivation. Pussy, money, drugs, music.. helping people sounds cool but damn..

carpe diem

Oh honey you sound too bad! Sad Sorry to hear that. But those motivations like pussy, drugs, it might just lead you to nowhere. That might sound great now but in the long run, you might not be happy with your choice. Relationships come and go but everything else must go on.

I'm not sure how guys cope up with break-ups. But for us girls, we normally make sure to improve ourselves so those guys who left us will regret it in the end. Don't make yourself look very bad. At least, try..

Well, you can still go on dating and sleeping with different woman. But I wouldn't agree about you taking drugs! Haha. That won't help I guess. And also, hopefully you learned to be faithful once the right girl come over. We usually do not tolerate cheating issues. Although girls have different tolerance level. But once we reached the peak of getting tired trying to understand you, then we will leave no matter how much we love you. That's I guess the point guys can't understand. Many of you are too comfortable thinking that your partners will forgive you anyway and will still be there for you..

Anyway, hope you get better soon!Shy
Thanks DP, much appreciated. Yeah, you're right about the part where girls will just get tired even if they love you. She said many similar things. Don't worry about the drugs part. I think I was just reflecting on my overall life's motivations. When I was much younger, I did large amounts of drugs and it actually made life really fun and easy but of course there were consequences and luckily for me, I didn't experience the more hard ones. But I was also making a point to myself in that I was actually planning on how to make a living to either live in Korea and/ or East Coast because that's where she wanted to live in future. But now, there's really no need for me to work in East coast since there's not as many girls there that I find attractive as there are in Asia or EE. Basically just what is my motivation to get my ass up on the morning. Majority of my friends have careers, pay mortgages, living in their bubbles which is fine, shit I almost went there but it wasn't really for me, it was for her. This is a big sign that I need to redefine my life propose, credit to David Deida (thanks to Vov for paragraph summaries) for reminding us men to have a purpose or to find our purpose.

For such a long time, it was being efficient in hunting for hot chicks and banging so I just need time and I'll be back stronger than ever.

(11-24-2014, 06:34 PM)mistersnort Wrote: avoid drugs, you can't be a sex addict, humans sole purpose, like all animals is procreation.

Haha, I know dude. But for me, it's not the desire, but the action. The desire is always gonna be there. Out of all the millions of guys who are married, I'm sure 99.99% of them want to bang younger hotter girls, but since many of them don't have the resources, confidence our ability to do so, it's easy for them to stay faithful since they don't have a choice. But once you learn how to close, especially with the help from many of the pimps here on this forum, it's actually hard you stay faithful because you actually have a choice.
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Leave California for the East coast and get a mortgage??? That's love right there man! I hate the East coast with a passion only NYC, Montreal, Miami are any good even still Id take SoCal anyday. Conversely, my gut tells me once I get over to Prague or Kiev Im going to be ruined for life just like LA and Vegas make me internally go "F Atlanta" whenever I go there now but if you like the sistahs Atlanta has got some fine ones.

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what cities have you seen the most curvy build big rack nice blondes in? I like a girl who's 5'6 and packing some real sweater cakes you know?
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Bullshit, there is no such thing as "sex addiction". It's a "problem" invented by society to conform people to the bullshit called marriage and long term relationships. We're DESIGNED BY NATURE to have multiple partners, plain and simple.

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What makes u believe nature designed us to have multiple partners? Just wondering.

I believe nature designed us to reproduce, which is why marriage is a societal norm. Reproducing is what helps the world move forward. So unless you can be like treesacharm and have a serious threesome relationship, multiple partners is just for pleasure not that im against it at all. Some people just have sex urges more than others and can never handle one woman for the rest of their life.

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(11-26-2014, 02:04 PM)007 Game Wrote: Bullshit, there is no such thing as "sex addiction". It's a "problem" invented by society to conform people to the bullshit called marriage and long term relationships. We're DESIGNED BY NATURE to have multiple partners, plain and simple.

I actually agree with you. Let me clarify. I had an addiction problem. What I mean by that is I chose willingly to be in a situation where the positives outweighed the negatives with one of the negatives being no longer hunting for women to bang them. When I broke that rule, to me at least, that is a form of addiction since I could not help myself. Kinda like drinking a beer. Nothing wrong with drinking a beer, but if you're a school bus driver and can't help it and need to drink a beer while driving, then that might be a problem. Now I will gladly accept criticism of why the hell would I ever agree to that sort of situation, that I understand but it was the principle of it in that I couldn't control myself. Because it's that same mental strength that I personally used in the past to go up confidently to random hot girls on the street to instadate them and later hookup.

Edit: Vov, just an idea. Suppose you met a girl who not only fit your ideal description of attractive, but was also a good salsa dancer, but enjoyed new adventures like mountain climbing, flying, scuba diving, had similar past experiences, not to mention was a great lover. That's who this chick was to me. She wasn't just got but we had a lot in common. But yeah, I'm back in the game

(11-26-2014, 01:54 PM)TideRide Wrote: F Song-
Leave California for the East coast and get a mortgage??? That's love right there man! I hate the East coast with a passion only NYC, Montreal, Miami are any good even still Id take SoCal anyday. Conversely, my gut tells me once I get over to Prague or Kiev Im going to be ruined for life just like LA and Vegas make me internally go "F Atlanta" whenever I go there now but if you like the sistahs Atlanta has got some fine ones.

Btw-
what cities have you seen the most curvy build big rack nice blondes in? I like a girl who's 5'6 and packing some real sweater cakes you know?

Tough call. I'm probably not the best person on this board to give that info but off the top of my head, I can think of two really fucking cute blond girls who had nice asses and big racks. One was Columbian and the other was from Sweden I believe but studying in Hawaii when I met her. Damn you kinda got me in the mood for a blond brickhouse now haha.
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Get up everyday and use travelling as your main motivation in doing something productive. Save heaps of money and travel as many countries as you can while dating any type of girls you like. Lol.

I sound stupid, don't I? Lol
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Lol-yeah that's basically my archetype of poon. Often Insee that or a skinny blonde as my only type as many brunettes bore me in all honesty. For me they're like looking at my sister or cousin or something because I'm Mediterranean looking.

If not too personal-where are you or did you live on the West coast where blonde brickhouses weren't common?

Ps-Best looking woman Inever saw was from Minneapolis. Imagine a blonde Nordic blue eyes with soft facial features not a man jaw or hockey pug nose with a body like Sara Stone-a definitive 10.

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(11-26-2014, 05:52 PM)decentfilipina Wrote: Get up everyday and use travelling as your main motivation in doing something productive. Save heaps of money and travel as many countries as you can while dating any type of girls you like. Lol.

I sound stupid, don't I? Lol

That's what I'm planning now. Location independence with plenty of free time.
(11-26-2014, 06:08 PM)TideRide Wrote: F Song-
Lol-yeah that's basically my archetype of poon. Often Insee that or a skinny blonde as my only type as many brunettes bore me in all honesty. For me they're like looking at my sister or cousin or something because I'm Mediterranean looking.

If not too personal-where are you or did you live on the West coast where blonde brickhouses weren't common?

Ps-Best looking woman Inever saw was from Minneapolis. Imagine a blonde Nordic blue eyes with soft facial features not a man jaw or hockey pug nose with a body like Sara Stone-a definitive 10.

Norcal.
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Awesome. Try include Philippines on your list of must visit!! Lol
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F Song-
As much as the high desert and Inland Empire sucks I saw some very nice blonde talent there. Orange County and some beaches in LA are like a modeling agency of busty blondes too.

What about fine blondes in Portland and Seattle?
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(11-27-2014, 01:39 AM)TideRide Wrote: F Song-
As much as the high desert and Inland Empire sucks I saw some very nice blonde talent there. Orange County and some beaches in LA are like a modeling agency of busty blondes too.

What about fine blondes in Portland and Seattle?

I hate driving bro. That's probably my biggest gripe with socal. I'm an avid daygamer so so cal doesn't make that easy. Portland is cool. A lot of norcal transplants and tons of artists/musicians but I don't remember tons of babes either. Haha actually I just remembered one of my good friend is a lesbian and she liked it there. She also killed it in san francisco which tells you about the demographics I think. Seattle over never been. But I think cost of living isn't any better. I'm seriously tired of paying high cost of living with lack of hot chicks where in other parts of world, much cheaper, great logistics to meet chicks and more foot traffic.
(11-26-2014, 10:28 PM)decentfilipina Wrote: @fcksong

Awesome. Try include Philippines on your list of must visit!! Lol
Ok, I will Wink But I need short skirts and heels and from what I remember, girls only wore that in the malls when working
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