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Broke up with boyfriend..
I think I'll be a certified NN now that my 3-years boyfriend (3-week fiance) and I broke up a week ago. I remember posting it here that I am getting married but things have changed. We started having consistent issues for like 3-4 months and it gets me to the point that I reached my peak understanding him. Same petty issues we had in the previous years but we never seriously argued about it. I'm just so so disappointed! I feel I was only used for his own pleasure esp when after I broke up with him, he called me where I thought he'll try fix things but he only told me that he still loves me but he's no longer in love with me so we should no longer be in a relationship. Wtf

Anyway, I love myself enough to let him go. I'm starting to be okay now with the help of another Aussie whom I banged consecutively when I was in KL. This new guy exactly knows my situation and I am not regretting anything. So he's the 2nd guy I had sex with. Problem is this guy is too sweet that he even willing to pay for all my travels just to spend time with him and keeps giving gifts and he was mentioning about marrying me and wanting to have kids with me. He texts me all day. He's very fit, masculine type and very handsome too. Although he's too tall for me, he's 6'3. He's a race car driver and pretty known in their region so it proved me that he has lots of friends and socials over there. As I thought he might be a loner as he keeps texting me. By the way, I have known him too for like 3 months now of just being friends. He really cares for me a lot but I feel like it's really really quick. I feel so overwhelmed but he's making me smile and laugh all the time esp when we're together.

I was surprised to meet someone as quick to decide about settling down. I am so overwhelmed. The thought of settling down and having kids amused me. It's not clear to me either whether we are boyfriends and girlfriends. As far as I know, we are just casual. Hmm. But he has expressed feelings over marriage and love, so I was like wth just happened. Now, see what happens next. I have little doubts about his motive though because it's like everything seems so perfect.

Anyway, just sharing my mixed emotions at the moment. Feel free to criticize.
(This post was last modified: 04-06-2015, 06:48 PM by decentfilipina.)
04-06-2015, 06:41 PM
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Who's dong was bigger? Which did you prefer and why?
04-06-2015, 07:26 PM
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The latter provided that his body looks like in those sex porn. Plus the sex was awesome. I don't think he gets tired easily. New guy said his last bang was 3 years ago. He's very playful even in public which I really like.

Prefer about what? Not too sure. I still love ex bf over this new guy. I may like this new guy but I am not sure if this is just temporary just because I am so disappointed and feels lonely
04-06-2015, 08:38 PM
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Hasn't he banged someone in 3 years and is handsome? Sounds off to me.
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Me too. He said no he hadn't. The mere fact is he loves to travel too. They recently went to Vegas with mates and pretty much he didn't get laid only his friends. I find it very questionable too. Anyway, he don't drink and doesn't smoke. He's quiet health conscious as well. When I asked why he didn't get laid, he said that wasn't his thing. He don't fuck girls he doesn't have feelings for. So I was like uh oh okay, very very unusual. Plus he owns several rental houses, drives expensive cars and has his own export import and car shop business. So I keep telling him every girls would try flirt with him I'd bet that. But he said he didn't. He's 36 now but still good looking and really fit. I love his muscles and whole body. Makes me shiver. Lol. Anyway, i was thinking due to his age meeting younger girl is one thing he looks in a girl to settle down with. Lol well I really don't know what's going on. I didn't even know what just did happen after a break up and this one. Lol
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RE: Broke up with boyfriend..
Decent,

Dont believe any man's notch count or when he last had sex.

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Be very careful and don't let your feelings get involved with these Western men. I have 1 million Filipina friends and I see it every week. Get new Western bf, thinks bf is the one, plans for the future, and she gets her heart broken. If a guy doesn't live in the Philippines, take anything he says with the grain of salt and consider your relationship a casual thing. And I dont mean living as in a few months long holiday. I am talking about dudes with jobs here. And even then, if they are under 30, they still probably do not want marriage.
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Thanks Dash. I remember, I should have taken your advice from the very beginning of my relationship. It should have saved me a lot of heartaches.

Anyway, it's pretty disturbing really. I wanted to think it's only just casual until I have a ring on my finger. Sometimes it's too hard. Though I don't trust many men, but there are just some guys who can easily get my attention. Anyway, so this new guy is clearing up to me to be his official boyfriend now which I haven't answered yet. He wanted to meet my mum soon and take me with him to introduce to his family then. He mentioned last night about me taking pills too until the time I am really decided to have a baby. Lol i'm really confused about this matter. I'm looking for negative things about him and only I can point out is him being quite controlling over stuff. He tends to control me and I can see he's quite obsessive. Hmm

Sometimes having guy friends around pays off really well! I just can't tell friends here. I can't open up with them as I worry about their reactions lol and I don't want to be bombarded with heaps of questions either. Thanks!
04-07-2015, 12:00 PM
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RE: Broke up with boyfriend..
I can not tell you how many Filipinas have said "I should have listened to you Dash" lol.

Ring on your finger means little. Seen many dudes go and get a ring and still have no intention of anything serious long term.

I wouldnt believe anything they say until you are processing visas and marriage licenses (his country's)

Be careful and smart in the future. Wink
04-07-2015, 12:21 PM
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I can't imagine processing fiancee or spouse visa. I really wanted to go to another country on my own so I wouldn't have to pay any gratitude. But anyway, seems reasonable enough that if the guy really wanted to be with me then they should do everything to get me around him all the time. If things went well and I'm on processing this whatever visa then I'd definitely inform all of you. Lol
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Aussies are all desxended from ex cons, you cant trust them
04-08-2015, 05:15 AM
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One week and already wanting to marry and have kids? That's just scary, run away.

That's not a joke, but a good advice.
04-08-2015, 07:29 AM
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Alex is right, we are convicts and shouldnt be trusted.
04-08-2015, 10:34 AM
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he told me yesterday he wanted to marry me then kids but wanted to enjoy me first. lol
i'm trying to get to know him more as this all stuff with him is a little fishy really.. so he has two facebook account, one for his like own personal, not really personal as he posts rarely in public and more on his cars, then another account which is a facebook page for his race car team.. i asked him if I can add him and these are his responses:

me: Haha silly! Can I add you on facebook?
him: Me? Never silly. I don't really use it and not really into it. So were you late to work?
me: Ah okay so is that a no? Hehe
him: Just the fb thing isn't me babygirl. Sorry I don't have any close friends on there
me: Haha really? okay then☺️☺️
him: Yeah. I'm pretty much against it all really. Too many fake people and sentiments. I prefer to be personal. Xo
me: I'm just adding you not chase you on facebook lol but it's alright if you don't want me to add you then☺️
him: You should be able to see stuff there anyway right?
me: What stuff? Lol
him: Fb stuff
me: If we are not friends there? Lol
him: Yes. It's public from what I know. And team b*****
me: But you have friends in facebook right? Lol. Well sure thing no worries forget that I ask Smile
him: Not close friends
me: Smile
him: I'm not interested in fb. Hadn't had it for three years
me: if you say so Smile
him: Is only for sponsorship now.
me: why wouldn't you let me add you then? just wanna see photos of youSmile
him: I'm not interested in fb. I send you photos Smile
me: lol
him: I just had people here to look at chopping trees. $900!!! What the!?

and he change the topic.. lol seems a red flag to me. he said he has no close friends in there but his ex girlfriend whom he impregnate is friends there..so I think he is hiding something..if he is only up to using me for his own pleasure then I better use him too for my own advantage but I'm not gonna fall for him anymore not until he gives me a better reason not to.

guys are sometimes can be caught in their own words..thank you brothers!
(04-08-2015, 10:34 AM)Shanked Wrote: Alex is right, we are convicts and shouldnt be trusted.

You're a good friend! I think Aussies are great friends but probably not a great lover! Lol Remember ex boyfriend sacrificing his time away from me just to comfort his other friends all the time even at late evenings until midnight.. Wtf lol
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dude is playing you.

multiple fb accounts.

doesnt want to add you.

huge red flag.
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Yes I highly believe it now that he is just playing on me. Wow! This guy must be a psycho then for spending much just to play with girls. Lol
04-08-2015, 10:46 AM
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