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Struggling being back in America
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Struggling being back in America
This is my first post but long time lurker hope to be able to contribute from my experiences and thanks to others for contributing through theirs.

I just got back from 2 years traveling around Eastern and Southern Europe. I'm location independent but needed to get back to the states to retain some new clients.

I've been back 8 weeks now an I'm going absolutely nuts. I've managed in 8 weeks to game 2 girls out of about 15 girls and about 20 something dates that I now have on rotation one is a 6 face 8 body other 8 face - 7 body both have shitty personalities, I find myself drifting in conversations and getting really annoyed with them but I don't want to live without getting laid.

I can't handle it here. When I go out and start gaming my attitude turns to complete shit and I get really depressed. The 2 girls I have now are on to me now as well. One keeps saying I can't put my finger on it if you just arrogant or indifferent other keeps asking me if I'm seeing other girls. My game is falling completely apart here.

Main reason is I don't find girls here attractive to me anymore, even the "smart" ones. I went on a date with a PhD post doc out of Ivy League Institution who ranted on and on about how awful men are and how she wants to become a lesbian and so on while she was attractive - her voice was deep and her behaviors were masculine. Instant turn off so I ejected myself. I feel like I'm ruined or maybe now spoiled I don't know. All I know is I'm really depressed and want to get out of here sooner than later.

I can't seem to adjust back to life here, even my friends are getting annoyed with me. One friend and I got in a massive fight because I ejected myself from a set he was gaming even when I told him these girls are not my type anymore.

I really don't know what to ask advice on as I'm at a total loss right now, I just felt like writing I guess. Maybe it's all in my head, I don't know.
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thinking too hard man. learn to relax and go with the flow. reduce your time with them to a minimum requirement.

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With time I think this will slowly seize for you, man, but it will take some time for sure. Especially since you were gone quite some time. 2 years is a long time to be away from home.

I think the longer you stay away from home, the harder and longer it takes to adjust when you return. Just the facets of life, I suppose. Keep grindin' it out and get out again when you get the chance and have the opportunity again!

Don't feel too down, I'm sure many have had this feeling before on here (including myself), and it just takes time. Hang in there.
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RE: Struggling being back in America
give your dick a rest, watch porn and masturbate twice a week...... then be fully loaded when its time to leave
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You have seen what is out there, if you are unhappy with your current lifestyle, make efforts to change where you are headed in the direction you desire.
If it means moving, changing career paths.. do whatever it takes to make you happy.
Life is too short to settle in mediocrity.
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RE: Struggling being back in America
Thanks for the responses final straw came last night when I was out with some friends including a couple of platonic female friends and I was standing at the bar ordering some drinks for a couple of buddies and three girls at the bar were talking about traveling to a country I lived in for 6 months. Just being totally friendly (not gaming) I injected myself into their conversation that I used to live in the country they were talking about and tried to strike a quick harmless conversation by suggesting some places they should check out. Two of the girls got super defensive and the other was friendly but as her friends escalated their stupid interrogation style of communication the other became pretty rude as well. These girls were 5 - 6's on a good day and at the risk of sounding arrogant I would not fuck any of them with my worst enemies dick. So much for being friendly. But in the end when I ejected myself and grabbed my drinks I kinda smirked at them then smiled when I walked away because just the thought of these girls arriving in the country they were talking about which was Russia made me think I really hope these girls develop some new deep insecurities when they see their competition in the Eastern block.

I've decided at this point I'm going to stack as many new clients as possible the next two months and dump the current 2 girls I'm with and just focus on work and the gym only. I figured if I added 6 additional clients then I could leave to US indefinitely and only return a couple times a year to see family and take care of some business stuff. Don't get me wrong I do not hate the US but when it comes to hunting quality women I'm convinced that anyone who thinks this is a great place for that has not traveled much outside of the US and I'm in a major US city. Even coming back after two years I've never seen so many mediocre women both in looks and attitude have standards that far exceed the value they bring to the table in a relationship. It's truly mind boggling.
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Set goals, take action!
Good luck highspeedequipment.
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RE: Struggling being back in America
travel opens your eyes...
the culture shock is real

There was time when I thought I can engage people and tell them about my experiences...
I have learned over the years that most of them do not get it and it is a waste of an effort ...

In most cases, if not all, only people who lived through direct or similar experience - you can share joy and be able to have discussion in am meaningful way about your experience.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2afuTvUzBQ

PS: And yes NA is not the best place to meet women .....the society -@ culture got fucked up ....stay away from main stream shit.
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Had to look up plato's cave. Spot on.
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If you dont wanna live there, move !
no reason to wait and be unhappy
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lol @ the cockblocking friends

last week (in asia) i went to hand a cute girl my number on the street...... the street is the worst place to do it cuz girls are always a bit scared there..... but it was daytime, there were 3 of them, and i am not a threatening person and kindly approach women all the time

as i walked up to the three college aged girls and politely said 'hello i saw yo......' the first girl in the group (not the one i was trying to give my number to) takes off in a dead sprint!

they all 3 locked arms as they walked so she started pulling the others, the 2nd (still not the one I wanted) started running with her pulling the third!

The third is looking back at me and has some sort of interest (or at least curiousity) but is being pulled hard by her two friends.. i contemplate following since she is hard core staring at me, but realize it was far to awkward and bailed


sorry your 2 friends cockblocking one being receptive comment reminded me of that

i truly believe that 99% of the guys living in the US are just wasting there lives..... if they only knew (and had the balls) it could be so much better

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Yeah you need to leave ASAP.

If only playing with your cell phones and giving men shit were highly paid skills in the USA ....
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(08-22-2015, 03:32 AM)nomadphilippines Wrote: lol @ the cockblocking friends

last week (in asia) i went to hand a cute girl my number on the street...... the street is the worst place to do it cuz girls are always a bit scared there..... but it was daytime, there were 3 of them, and i am not a threatening person and kindly approach women all the time

as i walked up to the three college aged girls and politely said 'hello i saw yo......' the first girl in the group (not the one i was trying to give my number to) takes off in a dead sprint!

they all 3 locked arms as they walked so she started pulling the others, the 2nd (still not the one I wanted) started running with her pulling the third!

The third is looking back at me and has some sort of interest (or at least curiousity) but is being pulled hard by her two friends.. i contemplate following since she is hard core staring at me, but realize it was far to awkward and bailed


sorry your 2 friends cockblocking one being receptive comment reminded me of that

i truly believe that 99% of the guys living in the US are just wasting there lives..... if they only knew (and had the balls) it could be so much better

I blew up on platonic girlfriend once because of this, she was constantly bitching to me about being single and no good men and I finally went off on a rant about these man hating girlfriends she goes out with.

Also a side story, I was out with a friend/client a weekend ago who's networth is in the high 8 digits. He is in his late 30's looks early 30's or late 20's, takes very good care of himself and is tall. Anyway we were at this mid grade lounge having drinks and both of us were being pretty social and having causal random conversations with girls and guys as well. He saw these two girls off the corner of the bar both were I'd say 7's one maybe an 8 but I had a few drinks in me both skinny but still nothing to write home about.

When one went to the bathroom he approached the said 8 and was running some pretty good game, had her laughing ect... her friend comes back and he still is holding the convo pretty well with both but I see the friend starting to get a solid resting bitch face so I decide to go in and help him by attempting to isolate the friend in a convo and I was doing well at that until he decided to attempt to isolate her then the friend took her focus off of our convo and proceeded to cockblock. Trying to recover fast he looks at me and say's we need to go meet so and so and attempts to get his targets number in which the friend starts speaking for her saying she does not give her number out to strangers so we basically said fuck it and went and talked to some other people.

Later that night I was having a cig outside and the cockblock friend is out having one herself with her friend talking on the phone and I decided to rub in her face who she just cockblocked her friend from and she pretended not to care. After I went in no more than 15 minutes later the two girls approach us and I had told my friend already what I told her in which he laughed.

When they came up I look at my friend and said we need to go to xyz bar and the two girls started engaging us. I looked at the cockblocking friend and said sorry we need need to meet with some other people take it easy. She then tried to invite her and her friend to join us and I said maybe some other time see you later. Just the look on their faces was enough to make my whole night. I hope her friend fucking scolded her for screwing up her potential millionaire hookup. Man that felt so good. No good men my ass, this guy is not a player and this girl missed out big time on a good prospect because of her girlfriends attention whoring and jealousy. I'm convinced good women should drop having any girlfriend who is not self assured and happy I frankly don't get why women befriend girls that do nothing but hold them back.

Back in my monogamist day's I had so many miserable girlfriends bff's do everything in their power to ruin a good stable developing relationship it literally drove me to refuse to be with one women at least in America. Then I get to listen to them complain about being single and their are no good men. I think more should be more research on the type of company many women choose to keep. If I have a male friend constantly cockblocking me and being a miserable sob I stop hanging out with him because he is bringing me down like many men I know do. I don't understand why women don't see this.

My theory is a majority of women worldwide don't actually want to have multiple partners, at least in my experience and opinion. I think it's the company they keep that drives them into either scuttling a relationship/partners for the next one out of being made to feel guilty for being happy or getting manipulated by jealous single friends or miserable undesirable friends into thinking their relationship is complete shit at the least little hang up where they go seek girlfriend "advice" which is usually with a BFF that has no life and no prospects and is an unhappy armchair therapist.

I once was dating this beautiful girl where we had literally no real fights or arguments, sex multiple times a day, took trips together met families ect... things were going great for a year until we started talking about moving in together. Next thing I know her fat miserable BFF started calling and texting her almost every 3 - 4 hours sometimes in tears about how they never spend time together and her relationship with her then boyfriend is going to shit (they saw each other every two days and sometimes everyday). I actually being a decent person pushed her along to go help her friend who could do nothing on her own. Quickly over a period of a few weeks we were seeing each other less and less and the excuses were her friends issues. Fast forward two weeks later she tells me instead of us going home to see her family in CA for a week she was spending Christmas with her BFF because she needed her. I actually got pretty pissed at this because we had already purchased tickets and she told her friend I was pissed which led to her friend working her down and making her feel like shit. Fast forward a couple more weeks of the friend starting fights between them and crying and having more drama than all the soap operas combined my girlfriend announces to me she does not think it's a good time to move in together and needs space to help her stupid fat "adult" friend. I just dumped her and moved on, in which she chased for a while blaming her friends issues. I stood my ground and said no thanks you're friend needs you. That was my last LTR and the one that made me stop getting exclusive with girls.

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(08-22-2015, 09:15 AM)highspeedequipment Wrote:
(08-22-2015, 03:32 AM)nomadphilippines Wrote: lol @ the cockblocking friends

last week (in asia) i went to hand a cute girl my number on the street...... the street is the worst place to do it cuz girls are always a bit scared there..... but it was daytime, there were 3 of them, and i am not a threatening person and kindly approach women all the time

as i walked up to the three college aged girls and politely said 'hello i saw yo......' the first girl in the group (not the one i was trying to give my number to) takes off in a dead sprint!

they all 3 locked arms as they walked so she started pulling the others, the 2nd (still not the one I wanted) started running with her pulling the third!

The third is looking back at me and has some sort of interest (or at least curiousity) but is being pulled hard by her two friends.. i contemplate following since she is hard core staring at me, but realize it was far to awkward and bailed


sorry your 2 friends cockblocking one being receptive comment reminded me of that

i truly believe that 99% of the guys living in the US are just wasting there lives..... if they only knew (and had the balls) it could be so much better

I blew up on platonic girlfriend once because of this, she was constantly bitching to me about being single and no good men and I finally went off on a rant about these man hating girlfriends she goes out with.

Also a side story, I was out with a friend/client a weekend ago who's networth is in the high 8 digits. He is in his late 30's looks early 30's or late 20's, takes very good care of himself and is tall. Anyway we were at this mid grade lounge having drinks and both of us were being pretty social and having causal random conversations with girls and guys as well. He saw these two girls off the corner of the bar both were I'd say 7's one maybe an 8 but I had a few drinks in me both skinny but still nothing to write home about.

When one went to the bathroom he approached the said 8 and was running some pretty good game, had her laughing ect... her friend comes back and he still is holding the convo pretty well with both but I see the friend starting to get a solid resting bitch face so I decide to go in and help him by attempting to isolate the friend in a convo and I was doing well at that until he decided to attempt to isolate her then the friend took her focus off of our convo and proceeded to cockblock. Trying to recover fast he looks at me and say's we need to go meet so and so and attempts to get his targets number in which the friend starts speaking for her saying she does not give her number out to strangers so we basically said fuck it and went and talked to some other people.

Later that night I was having a cig outside and the cockblock friend is out having one herself with her friend talking on the phone and I decided to rub in her face who she just cockblocked her friend from and she pretended not to care. After I went in no more than 15 minutes later the two girls approach us and I had told my friend already what I told her in which he laughed.

When they came up I look at my friend and said we need to go to xyz bar and the two girls started engaging us. I looked at the cockblocking friend and said sorry we need need to meet with some other people take it easy. She then tried to invite her and her friend to join us and I said maybe some other time see you later. Just the look on their faces was enough to make my whole night. I hope her friend fucking scolded her for screwing up her potential millionaire hookup. Man that felt so good. No good men my ass, this guy is not a player and this girl missed out big time on a good prospect because of her girlfriends attention whoring and jealousy. I'm convinced good women should drop having any girlfriend who is not self assured and happy I frankly don't get why women befriend girls that do nothing but hold them back.

Back in my monogamist day's I had so many miserable girlfriends bff's do everything in their power to ruin a good stable developing relationship it literally drove me to refuse to be with one women at least in America. Then I get to listen to them complain about being single and their are no good men. I think more should be more research on the type of company many women choose to keep. If I have a male friend constantly cockblocking me and being a miserable sob I stop hanging out with him because he is bringing me down like many men I know do. I don't understand why women don't see this.

My theory is a majority of women worldwide don't actually want to have multiple partners, at least in my experience and opinion. I think it's the company they keep that drives them into either scuttling a relationship/partners for the next one out of being made to feel guilty for being happy or getting manipulated by jealous single friends or miserable undesirable friends into thinking their relationship is complete shit at the least little hang up where they go seek girlfriend "advice" which is usually with a BFF that has no life and no prospects and is an unhappy armchair therapist.

I once was dating this beautiful girl where we had literally no real fights or arguments, sex multiple times a day, took trips together met families ect... things were going great for a year until we started talking about moving in together. Next thing I know her fat miserable BFF started calling and texting her almost every 3 - 4 hours sometimes in tears about how they never spend time together and her relationship with her then boyfriend is going to shit (they saw each other every two days and sometimes everyday). I actually being a decent person pushed her along to go help her friend who could do nothing on her own. Quickly over a period of a few weeks we were seeing each other less and less and the excuses were her friends issues. Fast forward two weeks later she tells me instead of us going home to see her family in CA for a week she was spending Christmas with her BFF because she needed her. I actually got pretty pissed at this because we had already purchased tickets and she told her friend I was pissed which led to her friend working her down and making her feel like shit. Fast forward a couple more weeks of the friend starting fights between them and crying and having more drama than all the soap operas combined my girlfriend announces to me she does not think it's a good time to move in together and needs space to help her stupid fat "adult" friend. I just dumped her and moved on, in which she chased for a while blaming her friends issues. I stood my ground and said no thanks you're friend needs you. That was my last LTR and the one that made me stop getting exclusive with girls.
Props on this post. Both for rubbing it into the cockblocking friend and for breaking up with your ex who has bad taste in friends.
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RE: Struggling being back in America
when i first moved to asia i never would approach girls in bars (even hookers lol) if they were with friends because it was so pointless in the US i assumed it may be here also

now i pretty much approach anything that isn't with their mom or a guy


to the OP just be glad you know there is a better place out there and have the balls to make it happen, you will get yours soon enough.... unlike 99.9% of the dudes in feminist countries that are either ignorant or pussies
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